Tips on how to successfully co-parent

Co-parenting after a separation or divorce can be difficult and draining, not only for the adults involved but also for the children trying to adjust to their new family situation. Parents who have just undergone one of the most significant changes of their lives are now navigating new waters without a partner. Children may be experiencing strong emotions themselves, and dealing with change is difficult for the entire family.

Fortunately, with some essential shared custody tips in mind, it is possible to create strong relationships between all concerned parties. For example, creating clear and consistent expectations for communication between parents is crucial if there is peace during this co-parenting journey. 

What is co-parenting?

Co-parenting is the idea that two parents who are no longer married continue to parent their children appropriately, fairly, and with support for one another. Co-parenting starts with a shared custody plan that involves both parents in the same proportion, and frequency is essential for maintaining a healthy relationship and life balance. Practicing effective communication between both parents is also crucial since this sets the tone for how your children will interact with both parents. 

Working on parenting agreements, such as sharing responsibility for major decisions, including health and education, religious preferences, setting clear rules and routines, and setting boundaries. When developing these methods together, keeping your child’s needs at heart can help ensure that you create an environment that encourages them to feel safe, secure, and loved by both parents.

How can ex-spouses accomplish successful co-parenting?

Co-parenting presents unique challenges for couples, but these simple tips may help maintain a healthy relationship between ex-spouses in the long term. 

1. Practice empathy and understanding when negotiating details of child support and custody. 
2. Consider couples therapy or family counseling from a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. 
3. Practice open communication when possible. 
4. Table any arguments in front of the children.
5. Agree with any custody modifications with a qualified attorney. 
6. Foster consistency in routines, schedules, and rules.
7. Do not put your children in the middle of your parental issues.
8. Keep your personal opinions of the other parent to yourself.

It is natural for both parents to want what’s best for their child, and it begins with a positive attitude from each parent. Ultimately, the two partners who were once in a relationship with each other are now unified in their role of raising a child or children. The challenge lies in maintaining a respectful, peaceful relationship for the child’s sake. Keep perspective at hand by continuously asking yourself: How will my current action affect my child? 

Call our experienced family law attorneys today

Contact us today if you are going through a divorce and need counsel on co-parenting or require modifications to an existing agreement. The Sabuco Beck, P.C. team provides trusted legal representation to ensure your rights and best interests are protected and honored throughout each process step. 

Our experienced family law attorneys are compassionate experts, ready to help guide your journey and ensure everything goes as smoothly as possible.